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gopimenon November 1st, 2009

Hi There,

Last week I wrote the first part of ‘How To Forgive Someone’.   Today I intended to write Part 2 of that post ‘How to Forgive Family & Close Friends’  but I have to postpone this to the next week because of a problem a reader brought up to my attention.

The Problem: “Your blog tells us that in order to be Happy, we should control our Mind!  But exactly how do I do that?  I find it so difficult to let go of my anger and vengeful feelings as well as fear feelings!  I would be grateful if you could tell me whether you use any special tools to help control your mind.”

My Answer:

Thank you dear reader for your question!

I get the same question from my wife!  “How exactly can I change the thoughts that I allow to dwell in my mind?  I can’t help but react to people who annoy me, or upset me or hurt me with negative emotions of anger, hurt and revenge!  So how can I forgive?”

The only way we can change our normal thought patterns is by being aware and by repetition!  Repetition is how we became the way we are.  As children when we react in one way that has helped us to solve a problem once, we tend to repeat the same action!

For example if we found as a child that throwing tantrums or shouting or crying helped us get what we wanted, and we keep repeating it – the subconscious mind accepts it as a successful reaction and makes it a habit!  So that  even though we are adults now, we still tend to get angry, raise our voices, frown, cry or whatever else worked for us once and has become ingrained in our mind as a HABIT!  I’m sure we can see examples of this everyday, whether at home or in the workplace!

Just like learning to drive a car has become a habit, our reactions to certain stimuli have also become habitual.   Of course it is difficult to change an ingrained habit!   It is not that our Intention is weak, but the Habit is too strong!  By repetition over years of reacting in a certain way, we have created ‘highways in our mind’ along which our thoughts keep traveling when we come across a certain stimulus!   Thus we need help when we want to create new better pathways in our mind.

This is where Technology can help!  You see that the problem with trying to change habitual thinking is that we are going about it the hard way – via the Conscious Mind (when our thoughts are in the Beta wave range).  We can find some small success with the Conscious Mind, by using constant repetition over a long period of time – perhaps months or even years!

However if we can talk directly to our Subconscious Mind (when our thoughts are in the Alpha wave range), we can achieve the same success in days if not hours.  This is because our Conscious Mind is not on guard to keep censoring the information and keeping it from permeating to the deeper levels of consciousness.

As an example consider what happens when a Hypnotist makes a silly suggestion to a person under hypnosis.  The person will carry out the suggestion immediately without question!  This is because the suggestion (however absurd or silly it may seem to our Conscious Minds) bypasses the Conscious Mind and easily reaches the Subconscious Mind.

Similarly if we can achieve a serene mental state (Alpha wave) by meditation or other means, then we can make suggestions almost directly to our subconscious mind and get results much faster.   In the old days people could only achieve these mind states by long meditation processes.  However nowadays, with the advent of subliminal audios, alpha brain wave entrainment tapes and so on, it is much easier for us to get to alpha levels and thereby make changes to our habitual thinking.

In fact, I just realized that I am listening to some of these audio programs on a daily basis.  My wife is not!  Perhaps that is why she is finding it more difficult to change her habitual thoughts (of annoyance, upset, worry, etc.) to thoughts that make for happiness (of peace, gratitude and forgiveness)!

So the practical answer to the reader’s question is: “Yes, I am using some tools (both free & paid) to help me control the thoughts I allow to dwell in my mind, so that I can remain Happy!”

• The free tool I use is a 30 minute Alpha Mind Control Audio, which you can download for free from this site.
• Some time ago, I also purchased the complete Super Mind System from the same site – which contains ‘dream programming’, ‘synchronicity & luck’, ‘ultimate visualization’, ‘subjective communication’ etc.   I have to say I am using some of these tools regularly to make Happy Living a reality for me.
• The good news is that you can now download these same set of audios and pdf documents for less than 1/3 of what I paid from the same site.   So if you are keen on speeding up your mental programming and changing your habitual thought patterns to ones that you would prefer,go to this website now.

Hope you will find the tools just as useful as I have found them to be.

Next week I shall be back with the delayed post on “How to Forgive Family & Close Friends.”

As always, Expect Happiness!

NOTE to Readers: I have to apologize for some links from other blogs below this under the title ‘Other Helpful Posts’. This is a new plugin I’m just testing out so some of the links may not seem relevant! Please bear with me. Once the testing period is finished, you will find that the links are very relevant! Until then just ignore those that are irrelevant. Thank you.

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